Golf and Mediation

October 18, 2018 by  
Filed under Mediation

October 18, 2018

I heard an old golf  joke yesterday: A ‘gimme’ can best be defined as an agreement between two golfers …neither of whom can putt very well.This hi-lites a key dynamic of divorce mediation. Mediation is most effective when each party focuses on their own risk/reward.  Many times in conflict, things come to what is called an impasse because one or both of the parties is more focused on what the other party stands to gain than their own interests. Often in divorce mediation, if you can get the parties to focus on their own best interests, the solution to the problem becomes simple – a “gimme.”

 

 

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Testimonials: 

“Sam is a great divorce mediator. He helped me and my ex through a very difficult time. We did not agree on much and at times it got a little heated. Sam stayed calm and always helped achieve what we came in there to do. The end result was wonderful. He always answered phone calls, emails quickly and was always so friendly and helpful. He never ever took one persons side. I have already recommended him to two friends of mine and will do so in the future. If your looking for a great divorce mediator Sam is your man.  Oh and he also met me at a location that was close to me to sign papers. He always made it convenient for me.” – Lindsey J. 

“Sam is wonderful! He helped us through a difficult and emotionally challenging divorce and handled both myself and my ex-husband with the perfect amount of caring and tact.  The process could not have gone any better. He was fair, kind, straightforward and made the entire process go as smoothly and quickly as possible. He’s the best – I highly recommend him!” – Leah P. 

“Sam skillfully guided us through a lengthy, often difficult process and helped save us a good deal of grief – and money. He has the patience of a saint and a near ‘Solomonic’ gift to help cut through complex situations and issues.  Sam worked hard to make our outcome as close to ‘Win-Win’ as possible.  He was always professional, helping to keep his clients on the high road at all times.” – Carl S.

“Not only did Sam make the whole process as painless as possible, but he gave calm, reasonable advice that allowed us to make the best decisions for ourselves and our children.  I have contacted Sam no less than three times after our divorce was final with questions.  Each time he responded quickly and went out of his way to help me resolve and understand the issues.  I highly recommend Sam to anyone who finds themselves in need of a great divorce mediator. ” – Christine M.

“Sam is a great mediator.   The first time I spoke with him was many years ago when we came close to filing but decided to give it a second chance.  He was very patient and understanding that we may want to work it out.   A few years later we decided that it was enough to just move on and file for divorce.   Same guided us through the divorce mediation without taking anyone’s side.   He was fair and extremely patient, considering the personalities he was dealing with.  Thanks again Sam for everything!” – Ngim L. 

“Sam did an excellent job of divorce mediation between my ex and myself.  He was very fair to us both and very very patient and understanding. Thank you Sam for making a painful situation as painless as possible!!” – Chris W.

“Sam is such a great and wonderful divorce mediator throughout my entire 9-month divorce process full with challenges at both emotional and financial sides. He has always been incredibly patient with me and my ex-wife and actually the key element to hold onto both sides to make things keep moving forward. I do want to sincerely recommend him with my all due appreciation and respect for both his work and his kindness for all his future clients.”  – Yuan Y. 

“Sam Anderson’s compassion, knowledge, and experience was a tremendous asset that enabled us to move through the legal process efficiently.   I would highly recommend his services to anyone in need of a trustworthy divorce mediator. ” – Eve R.

“Sam’s divorce mediation made a difficult process much easier.  We had a real challenge where we needed to get our house refinanced.  There was a chicken and an egg problem that could have forced the house to go to sale.  Sam came up with a way to solve the problem and save the house.” – Steve K.

“Sam made what one would call  ‘ugly process’ go smooth.  He was great in giving fair advice and recommendations to help my wife and I get through this and avoid the legal headache of the court process. I would highly recommend him to anyone looking for a divorce mediator!” – Darin M.

“Sam was very professional and helpful.  He was very patient throughout the whole divorce process and explained things in a way that was easily understood.  He was also very fair in his dealings with myself and my ex. I would highly recommend Sam for those going through this trying period in their life.”  – Rob J.

“Sam provided a positive experience and an easy transition for a not so easy experience to go thru! I would recommend Sam to anyone wanting a less stressful way to proceed thru a divorce.” – Ron W. 

“Sam was very helpful assisting my ex-wife and I through our divorce. He was professional, remained neutral, provided guidance and ensured that nothing was overlooked. I would recommend his services to anyone that is looking for a mediator. ” – Alex D. 

“Sam mediated my ex’s and my divorce and and did so knowledgeably, thoroughly and patiently. He looked out for both our interests equally, making sure we’d each considered everything in our agreement. He’s a great guy, likable and when I offered him a few more hours’ worth of payment for the additional time he spent coaxing us through, he turned it down. If you’re at the end of your marriage and seeking help getting through the process, I can’t recommend Sam highly enough.” – Bob M.

“I do not know many mediators , but I know we did choose the right divorce mediator to help us. You were a pleasure to work with!” – Lory M. 

“I spoke to Sam Anderson over the phone before our initial meeting and, right away, I felt more at ease.  He assured me about some concerns that I had going into the process.  Even though it had been 4 years since the divorce, emotions were high in both of the meetings.  Sam was extremely professional, caring, and helpful walking us through the painful steps of modification.  If I ever needed a divorce mediator again, I would definitely hire Sam Anderson.” – Shannon B.

“Sam worked with us through a very long process to mediate our divorce. He was very fair through the process, I never felt he took anyone’s side. He was always calm and understanding through the process, even though they situation was tense at times. You can tell he was invested in the process to see us to finish. I would highly recommend Sam to any who need his services. Thanks for getting us through Sam.” – Mike C.

“Very pleased with my divorce mediation experience with Sam.  He is very professional, he provided timely responses to all my inquiries and his prices were very fair. Highly Recommended !” – Cynthia M. 

“I was referred to Sam by a counselor at my Church.  He handled our awkward situation very professionally and objectively.  Sam is an excellent listener, which makes him an outstanding divorce mediator.  I would highly recommend Sam’s expertise. Thanks, Sam !” – Val A.

“Sam listened to both my wife and I and gave very sound advice. I appreciate his even nature and perspective. Highly recommended divorce mediator.” – Todd L.

“Sam is amazing – a true breathe of fresh air.  He gave me amazing information that helped us make the right decision.  He spent 45 minutes on the phone and took the time to outline the process of divorce mediation. He is as good as it gets and is just a stand up guy.  You hardly ever experience service like this anymore. Thanks again ;)” – Jesse S. 

“Sam was very easy to work with.  Being a divorce not all topics were pleasant and could easily have gotten off track but he kept us focused and in the end we both got what we were hoping for and Sam was super helpful. Could not have picked a better divorce mediator.” – Jed S.

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